I wanted to share with you how I've been feeling lately and just be really transparent with you here in this space.
The more I'm leaning into what direction I want to go with my work, who I want to serve, and how I can make the biggest impact in this community, it's coming up for me that it’s really about moms.
I'm just going to be really candid and transparent right now, as I'm in this process of transition and figuring out the kinds of conversations I want to be having.
And to be honest, it's really conversations like this one. Being open. Being curious. Providing an environment where we feel safe to share and be seen and learn from one another.
And heal. Heal so that we can show up for our kids in the ways we so deeply desire, but are sometimes limited by our unhealed stuff.
Carrying the Mother Wound
Like so many things, I think it's because of my own journey with healing. The mother wound I carry from my family lineage and my own childhood trauma from being a highly sensitive neurodivergent child, and then having a spotlight shone on all of those wounds as I stepped into the role of a mother.
It’s making me realize how important it is to not only educate and support mothers in understanding our children but also to support mothers in understanding how to support themselves.
And to heal some of this trauma that we hold in our bodies that often we don't even consciously realize because we've suppressed it for so long. And when we step into this role of parenting our kids can bring out all of these parts of us.
We can have the best intentions, love our children so much, and have all the information we need, but if we have unhealed trauma from our childhood and we're carrying a mother wound within us, it's going to come up for us in our parenting of our children.
A Mother’s Sense of Competency
I recently conducted a research study for my graduate work. I measured mothers' sense of parenting competency when they were empowered with strength-based strategies aligned for their neurodivergent child (this study was specifically twice-exceptional kids with ADHD).
The statistical significance of this study, along with the qualitative feedback from the parents, was honestly mind-blowing.
These customized strength-based strategies that were delivered to these mothers and implemented into their daily routine with their children had a significant impact and made mothers feel better about themselves as parents.
And this had a direct impact on the child:
