Welcome to the Neurodiversity Advocate!
A safe space where neurodivergent moms raising neurodivergent kids learn to self-regulate and reparent themselves in community.
Hi, I'm Melissa!
Growing up as an undiagnosed dyslexic child with ADHD, I took on so much of the messaging about what was WRONG with me rather than what was right. Once I became an educator and then a parent to two neurodivergent children, I decided that it was time to get involved and change the narrative in this community to a strengths-based one. By pursuing my Masters in Cognitive Diversity in Education, becoming a Strength-Based Consultant for Neurodivergent Learners, and hosting my podcast Reframing Neurodiversity, I’ve had the opportunity to be on the front lines of change- which is why I am here for you, the mom, now.
What you can expect from this Substack Community
With so many women in particular becoming aware of their neurodivergence later in life, it can be a lot to juggle, dive into, tease apart and support ourselves in while we're supporting so many other people who are dependent upon us.
So in this space I shine a light on that experience and recognize that it's real and it’s hard while also sharing what I’m doing to make it easier.
One of those foundational pieces being: creating a sense of community.
And the other key pieces being:
Learning how to navigate ADHD as an adult
Creating safety in our nervous system through education and self-regulation strategies
I know how much it can shift our nervous system and our feelings of safety, especially as ADHDers who: when the stresses and demands increase, we become more symptomatic.
The actions we take when we feel seen, valued, connected, and have a sense of belonging with others who are walking a similar path are life-changing.
Because if we don't feel safe:
We cannot learn new skills
We cannot step into a new way of being
We are not open and receptive to learning new strategies if we don't feel safe in our bodies.
Safety comes from co-regulation with other adults who feel safe, who get it, speak your language, and are compassionate about what you're going through.
I'm streamlining this in a way that feels calming to our nervous system and where we're receiving a sense of belonging through community.
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What you will receive for just $11/month is:
Guided Self-Regulation Strategies that specifically target your nervous system state (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn) + a system to figure out where you’re at in your system at any time and support in meeting yourself there.
Unfiltered and exclusive shares from me where I’m letting you in on how to navigate more self-acceptance + ways to feel safe in thriving more authentically in your life!
You'll have the option to partake in the comments and chat.
You can access the archive of resources at your own pace, at your leisure, or at whatever time works best for you.
You can be as involved or passive in the community experience as feels right for you and calms your nervous system.
What you won't receive from me in this space is a bombardment of:
Shoulds
Demands
Obligations
You will receive a safe space to be gently supported in getting to know your nervous system and what it needs to feel safe. Plus, the opportunity to be seen to share and feel less alone in your journey!
I’d love to get to know you!
